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teenagefrankzhang:

So my dad took away my laptop because I wouldn’t give him the password. I wasn’t even allowed to type it in, he demanded to know the password to my personal computer because he thinks I’m “ doing things I’m not supposed to do. ” My sister is not, and never has been, held to the same standard when it came to passwords on her own phone etc. But my parents always suspect me of being “up to something” and will randomly ask to use my computer/ know the password, and when I say no, they get mad at me. In the past, they have taken away my devices and looked through them, which cased me a lot of anxiety and is part of the reason I don’t like it when people use my computer or go through the camera roll on my phone. Even as I type this, I’m being asked what I’m doing. If you think parents demanding to know the passwords to their child’s personal devices is a breach of privacy please reblog

my parents do the same thing it’s torture

As a parent, you don’t get privacy until you are on your own. My house, my rules, my money, my decision.

Don’t like it?

Too bad.

I am the parent here. I’m not your friend. I’m your father.

Literally kids are not your prisoner??? There’s a difference between being protective and being controlling.

Denying your children privacy is abuse.  Using someone’s dependence on you to control them is abuse.

Parents need to accept that part of growing up is gradually having more of a separate life of your own, which includes privacy.

Also, the more you try to force your children to tell you everything, the more they will try to hide things from you, and the more unhappy and untrusting of you they will be.  They will be less and less likely to open up to you when they are actually in trouble or terribly unhappy because they have no basis for thinking that you will be sympathetic or helpful.

They don’t do this because they’re devious or bad.  They’re doing it because they need to exist as people separate from you for their own sanity – and in order to actually develop the independence I bet you want them to one day have, because young people don’t just become independent the day they move out of their parents’ homes.  If everything is going well they are capable of living independently – they know how to take care of themselves in practical ways, like cooking and cleaning and going to the doctor, and can cope emotionally with being responsible for themselves and not having anyone telling them what they need to do – for some time before they actually do.

Also, it may be your house and your money, but they are your children in the sense that you have a relationship with them, not in the sense that you own them.

If you overdo this stuff you are going to end up as one of those parents whose grown children don’t talk to them or spend time with them.