why do you think dean is always shipped with men & everyone sees him as bi? and do you think destiel is the reason for dean’s female love intesrests to never be accepted in the fandom?

destieldrabblesdaily:

Hmm,
actually, I think the whole ‘Dean mostly being paired with other males’ thing
is very interesting, but also very understandable. I think it isn’t limited to
Destiel though, and doesn’t have to do with Dean as a character per se, but
also with the kind of show that Supernatural is.

(Only keep
reading if you don’t get uncomfortable at the sight of ships other than Destiel,
even though I don’t ship any of these ships, but merely use them as an example.)

The thing
with shipping in general is, that we’re looking for a story that speaks to us. We’re
looking for something ground breaking on that TV show that we enjoy, something
epic, something that for the most part doesn’t simply happen in real life.

So when we’re
looking at Dean in particular (because this is what your ask was about), we’re
looking for interesting relationships between him and potential partners. But
the problem is; pretty much all women that were potential love interests, either
didn’t get to stick around, or didn’t get a chance to play a part in the epic
love story that most viewers are looking for.

Characters
like Cassie, Robin, and Ann Marie never got more than one single episode, so
they barely count. There are several other one night stands, but none of them
get a chance to explore any kind of bond with Dean that’s visible to the
audience. No slow build love story that the viewers will get invested in. The
same goes for Lisa; there’s an episode where we get to meet her/Ben, but after
that, it goes from 1 to 100 in a second, and suddenly they’re together, playing
house. That unusual love story that people are looking for, wasn’t there. She
was nice, she was kind, she was safe. But their relationship as told on the show,
was nothing spectacular, or unexpected in the good way.

I’d say
that the only love story for Dean that actually had potential, was Dean/Jo.
Personally, I didn’t ship it, but she was around long enough for the writers to
make something of it, and her personality could’ve contributed to a love story
that wasn’t solely based around her ‘being a love interest’. But she got killed
off, so the opportunity was never properly explored.

So keeping
all of this in mind… then there is Dean and the fellas. And the thing is, these are all white men, meaning they got
to stick around for a while. Meaning they actually got a chance to ‘write a
story’ with Dean, and meaning that he could actually build a relationship with
them.

We see Dean
getting into this unlikely long-term relationship with an angel, even though he
never had faith before this one angel. (Destiel) We see Dean getting into this
unlikely long-term relationship with a vampire, even though he’s never seen them
as anything other than horrible blood suckers before this one vampire.
(Dean/Benny). And we see Dean getting into this unlikely relationship with a
demon, even though demons were supposed to be his worst enemy, before this one
demon. (Dean/Crowley, because whether you like it or not, that friendship got
oddly romantic, especially from Crowley’s side.)

So this
kind of thing peaks our interest, because we have the combination of
human/immortal being, and we get the slow burn that we like in order to see these
relationships (whether you view them as romantic or platonic) bloom.

And that is
the point. All of these males get the opportunity to build up a decent
relationship with Dean Winchester, because unlike pretty much all women on the
show, they get the screen time to do it. Dean and all of them share an
interesting history, whereas Dean and all of these women (except for Jo, a
little) simply don’t. It’s not their fault, they just never got a real chance
to compete, because the writers don’t give them a story that allows them to.

Which brings
us to another thing; When we find a new ship/love story that we enjoy, it often
takes us by surprise. It’s the story and natural chemistry between two
characters that compels us to ‘ship it’. But the problem is, we’re often not
interested when we’re ‘artificially’ forced to ship something. Meaning; Let’s say
they’d introduce some random new female in season 11 or 12 (which are most
likely the final seasons). She’s white, she’s straight, she’s Dean’s age. We’d
all know why she’s here; she’s here to be Dean’s love interest. She’s merely
designed to easily slide into Dean’s life, and fit there perfectly. And that is
where the problem lies. Because this is the point where we already lose
interest; we’re not surprised, we’re not witnessing anything ground breaking.
They lose our attention the second she’s introduced, because there is no
challenge there, we know that she was ‘made for Dean’, whereas with others with
whom he got a chance to form a bond (and all of those happen to be males
because all the females left or got killed off before their time), there is the
exciting ‘whoa will they or won’t they’ factor.

So on top of all that, at this point, whomever
they introduce, Dean already has a more impressive and compelling relationship
with at least three males on the show, building for seasons and seasons, deeper
than he will EVER have with this random new chick, because he and her didn’t get the time back when it was necessary, and it’s simply too late.

Not to
mention, aside from all that, there is Wincest. Because no random female that
ever stumbles in, is going to succeed at making Dean put her before Sam. And realistically,
no woman is going to put up with that in the long run.

So the
women are definitely not the problem, and if you really think about it, neither
is the audience. We’re looking for stories that lure us in, and whoever is part
of that story, we usually don’t really care whether they’re male/female/a
poltergeist/a llama. But on Supernatural we mostly have to make do with males,
and so that (naturally), is what this fandom does.