I’m just curious. What’s your stance on the whole “You’re not LGBT+ if you’re Cis heteromantic ace and/or aro” thing? I’m confused why this would even be a thing that people get angry about when asexuals and aromantics are a part of the community already.

asexualmew:

My stance is that cisgender heteromantic asexuals and that cisgender aromantic heterosexuals are both asexuals and aromantics respectively. Therefore, they should definitely be included in LGBT+ unless the A isn’t really for asexuals and aromantics.

It gets tiring, very tiring, and when I hear cis het aces and cis aro
hets don’t belong, I feel like I’m being directly told that I don’t belong because of my aceness. That my aceness is just a “quirky” thing to people within the community. That they don’t understand at all my strife for being ace, and they don’t care, and that it is merely only to humour us that they say we belong at all.

Honestly it’s the same acephobic and arophobic fight year after year after year. People just have a different way of painting that same turd is all so while as asexuals and aromantics start becoming more accepted as a general idea, the argument as to why we don’t belong becomes more sophisticated to mask actual hatred and ignorance towards us.

And sometimes, after being directly told from people within the community that asexuals and aromantics shouldn’t actually be the “A” at all, and that it should go back to Allies only, because, at least that would help closetted LGBT+ people by claiming they’re an Ally… sometimes I want to give up. Being told all the time that we don’t belong in all of these ways to make people sound less like the jerks they really are being- and I’m like- if we really are THAT OTHERED by everyone… by straight cis people, by the bigger LGBT+ community… maybe I should stop fighting for us to be included? And just truly separate myself from everyone? But .. like… I can’t actually do that… because I really do need to try to make a safe place for others who are aromantic and who are asexual… but…

Yeah anyway.

My stance on that narrative is that it’s acephobic and arophobic as hell.