ptsdcloud:

another reminder to traumatized people who live with their abusers: you’re worthy of love, respect, and patience. if you’re an adult and you haven’t been able to take care of yourself and you’re more dependent than you’d like, you’re not a waste of space and resources,

you’re not a failure, you’re not worthy of abuse, criticism, or “tough love”

you’re struggling. you’re trying the absolute best you can. and the fact that the people who are supposed to be your support system won’t acknowledge that is not on you. their perception is not your reality. your reality may be affected by their perception because they’re hurting you, but what they think you’re dealing with and the effort they think you’re putting in is not your actual, very valid, experience. you’re working hard. i know it.