prismatic-bell:

gunzonyatmblr:

danielle-mertina:

candlerave:

teamnowalls:

she the one that make it into a living space so 

he could’ve built it with his own two calloused hands and it would still be grandmas house

The reason it was “grandma’s house” is because grandma took care of the kids/ grandkids, loved on the kids/ grandkids, socialized and got to know the kids/ grandkids. But granddad thought all he needed to do is work and make money and was okay being scarce.

A lot of older men realize (if their wives predecease them) that they have no relationship with their family and that the family was only emotionally held together by his wife/ grandma.

But I think that today – if men take a more active role in parenting and being part of the family – that it will be “grandparents’ house” not grandma’s.

^^^^^^

Can confirm. My Grampa was always part of the family—playing with the kiddos and teaching us important stuff—sometimes important stuff that had nothing to do with school. The biggest of those lessons that I remember was Grandma making spaghetti sauce, and stepping out of the kitchen—I don’t remember where she went. I just remember Grampa stepping in, putting a finger to his lips, pulling a teaspoon out of the drawer, putting a level teaspoon of sugar into the sauce, stirring it in, and putting the spoon away, and at dinner complimenting my grandma on her sauce. Having tasted it before and after, I can tell you exactly what he did: Sugar cuts tomato acid, and my grandma made her sauce from scratch. The sugar helped the flavors meld. My grandma wasn’t book-smart—today she’d probably be diagnosed with a learning disorder and, I suspect, dyslexia. She was very proud of her cooking, but apparently didn’t know you could add sugar to a savory dish. What I learned in that moment: love means being the silent partner sometimes, and building each other up. He didn’t embarrass her by trying to horn in; he just helped, quietly, and kept the achievement firmly in her court.

Before my grandma passed it was “Grandma and Grampa’s house” and after, it was “Grampa’s house that he and Grandma remodeled.” If you’re there to provide love, you’ll get it back. It’s only “Grandma’s house” if grandpa isn’t around.