reddishhbeardv2:

Unwarranted marriage advice: seriously consider what your potential spouse is bringing to the table. What do you want out of life and how does this person aid you on your path. And will you be able to aid them. Truthfully one of the biggest indicators of compatibility.

Good chemistry and good times don’t last even nearly a year before you hit some seriously rough patches. There’s this arabic saying, “love comes through the front door and jumps out the back window”. It comes and goes. It has its phases. You’re two unique individuals.

Make sure this person has goals and that you have goals too. Romantic evenings are not goals. Love isn’t self sustaining. Loving in bondage will only do you tremendous harm. Be like two individual pillars supporting one roof. Two oak trees that don’t grow in each other’s shade. As Khalil Gibran beautifully said.

You’re still you, with all your baggage and in all your glory. Don’t give yourself up for someone who, if even unintentionally, can’t let you grow.