in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y’all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!
With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?
ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”
vs.
“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.
theory: “mamma mia!” (2008) and “kingsman: the secret service” (2014) take place in the same universe
my evidence?
colin firth.
in “mamma mia!”, which is arguably set in the 90s, he plays:
an englishman named harry
whose last name is not known
who demonstrates an affinity for aliases (”harry headbanger”)
who lives in london
who works as a banker which sounds fake
isn’t “spontaneous”
is gay
in “kingsman: the secret service,” where the main story is arguably set in 2014, he plays:
an englishman named harry
whose last name is now revealed to be hart
who demonstrates a nickname for aliases (”galahad”)
who lives in london
who is actually a secret agent…which he has to lie about and tell people he’s some boring job like a banker
can’t afford to be spontaneous bc he’s a secret agent and if he doesn’t plan things out he will probably die
tells a random woman that he’s gay (among other things) (he’s implied to be lying but literally nothing in the film indicates that anything in the line where he says that is not true)
CONCLUSION: Harry from “Mamma Mia!” and Harry from “Kingsman: The Secret Service” are the same person. The opening scene (before it jumps to “17 years later”) of Kingsman takes place, at most, a few years apart from the events of “Mamma Mia!” Also, Harry Hart is gay. Thank you for your time.
Like, if you genuinely believe that certain kinds of fictional relationships are inherently unethical to ships, then…okay. You’re allowed to think that. (Frankly, I have mixed thoughts about certain kinds of fan content too, which I’m still ironing out.)
But.
That doesn’t change the fact that even the gnarliest most fucked up ship in the world is still fictional, and any harm done by people shipping it is completely indirect. Unless someone is actively shoving their weird weecest noncon hentai or whatever into your submission box forcing you to look at it, they as people haven’t actually done anything to directly harm anyone. No action was taken to intentionally hurt any actual living, breathing human beings. Whether the work itself, independent of the artist, is harmful is the question on the table.
And you’re totally allowed to think that it is. And you’re allowed to say “this ship is harmful and here’s why.” And you’re allowed to dislike the people who made the art, to distrust them, to want to avoid them. To block them and everyone they talk to, if you want to.
You’re not entitled to harass them. You’re not entitled to accuse them of committing actual crimes against real people with no evidence. You’re not entitled to lie about them. You’re not entitled to send death threats and rape threats and suicide bait to them.
Once you do that, you’ve already lost the moral high ground, because all of that constitutes direct harm. There’s no question of whether it’s harmful. It’s intended to be. These are actions taken with the intent to hurt a real-life living breathing human being. And that’s not okay.
Art will never be as good at hurting people than people are at hurting each other. Reality will always affect reality a hundred times more powerfully than fiction can. Please bear that in mind.
I almost never reblog my own posts like this unless it’s to respond to someone or add something else, but I’m reblogging this one because…like this really is the bottom line for me. The most problematic piece of art in the world is still not as morally wrong as intentionally and maliciously trying to hurt a real life human being.
And that’s not the climate of criticism we have right now, that principle is not understood or even entertained. And unless and until it is, I refuse to participate in media criticism. This includes fandom criticism, obviously, but probably also includes criticism of canon media. I’m done.
Because right now, it doesn’t matter how long I scream “THIS THING IS NOT INHERENTLY HARMFUL!” As long as we’re in a climate where it’s okay to mistreat people if they create art that IS inherently harmful, we are going to have people exploit that climate and label anything they want as inherently harmful so that they can mistreat people with impunity.
random question: what are the most pivotal dean/cas scenes for you guys? the ones that you think of when you think of dean and cas being in love and all that jazz
The point of no return for me.
I can’t understand how can anyone watch this episode and still see their love for each other as platonic.
And let’s don’t forget that this episode includes the lines they used for a blatantly romantic scene in Bloodlines.
Like the good news is that Claire is 21. Dunno how old Kaia is but the actress who plays her is 23. Alex is twenty. Patience is 18.
So if you don’t want a show about teenagers I have super good fucking news.
Wait just a flipping minute!!! Are you saying you need more believability out of your TV shows about monsters, ghosts, and demons? More believability out of a program that has killed off it’s leads over a hundred times? More believable than a show where God is a sloppy neurotic writer with a weird sibling rivalry? More reality than a show where the leads hang with the King of Hell and Death himself? More reality than a show that regularly pops back and forth in time and between alternate realities including Scooby freaking Doo? I think if OP is looking for believable, Supernatural might not be the right show for them.
I mean it’s not like Sam had just turned 22 in the pilot and had been on and off hunting a similar amount to Claire… it’s so unfreaking believable they’d be any good at hunting at that age with that experience amiright?!
Being Lucifer’s vessel and the demon blood made zero difference to his ability to hunt werewolves, vampires etc. The boys were purposefully portrayed both kinda winging it and only half knowing what the hell they were doing in the first season, heavily relying on dad’s journal and hunches. They had no idea that vampires even existed etc. they learned, they grew, they were not innate amazing hunters just cos it’s in their blood, they have learned to get as good as they have.
IT IS NOT INNATE. IT’S NOTHING TO DO WITH THEIR BLOOD. ANYONE CAN BE A HUNTER IF THEY HAVE ABILITY, LEARN WELL AND HAVE THE TOOLS. THAT IS THE POINT THE SHOW MADE WITH CHARLIE, ASA, JESSE & CESAR, JODY, DONNA, BOBBY, RUFUS, JOHN FREAKING WINCHESTER WHO LEARNED TO HUNT AS AN ADULT AND DID NOT COME FROM A FAMILY OF HUNTERS BUT WAS KNOWN AS THE BEST BY EVERYONE UNTIL HIS SONS OUTSHONE HIM THANKS TO THEIR CRAZY LIFE EXPERIENCE AND LESSONS.
The show is about free will, that blood means nothing, it’s all about the individuals and their choices.
So Wayward Sisters is a show where young 20 – somethings start out relatively capable but not perfect and the show is them learning to get better at hunting?
*stares into the camera*
I make no secret of the fact that I was stoked for the Wayward Sisters to be about Jody and Donna. I’m not about lying. I was excited to see it. I do not apologise for that, at all
But Claire, Patience and Kaia are roughly the same age as Sam was. And if we’re gonna get into the whole ‘was a vessel’ thing. I have great news about Claire, who was an angel vessel, still could be (I don’t want that for her though). Not mythical enough? Kaia and Patience exist
Claire became aware of the Supernatural from a young age. Why? Dad went on an angel mission, and he hasn’t been home in a few years. It’s not that different
school districts and administrators are working hard to scare students out of protesting in the wake of the Parkland shooting.
don’t fall for their bullshit. you have the right to speak up and make yourself heard. a local superintendent doesn’t overrule the first amendment, much as they might like to.
and here’s an open invitation: I’m a teacher, recent PhD, one-time educational administrator (although not in a public school), and hopefully soon to be a college professor. if you need advice on navigating the crap your school is giving you or minimizing the impact they can have on your chances of getting into the college of your dreams, message me. I’ll help you find legal resources, write admissions essays, find ways to argue for your right to protest to your school board – whatever I can do.
please signal boost this, and if you’re someone who can help (civil rights lawyer? college admissions counsellor? experienced activist leader?), join in and let young activists know what you can do to help.
Hi there is no such thing as a “permanent record” outside of the legal system. Your school records don’t go to the FBI or the cops.
Also if you get suspended or punished for protesting, call the ACLU. There’s case law protecting the first amendment rights of students. They can help.
The Supreme Court ruled in Tinker v. Des Moines that students’ rights don’t stop at the door of a school
The Second Ammendment may be the major focus in this fight but never forget the First
You have rights
The ACLU has been circulating a graphic on Facebook, but I don’t think it’s made its way to Tumblr:
Schools cannot punish students for protesting. They can punish students who walk out for missing class, but they have to follow established procedures – so you shouldn’t get penalized in any way differently than if you’d been caught skipping class for any other reason. Any punishment in excess of that (banned from extracurriculars, failing classes, prevented from graduating, whatever bullshit you’re being threatened with) is unconstitutional, and the ACLU will help you sue.
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