I just left my husband alone with our two children for sixteen days. I was not worried about anything regarding the house, their food, or their wellbeing. I put all the appointments in the family calendar and my husband checked it and kept them. I literally did not worry about them. I missed them, and I was sad that they missed me, but I didn’t worry about them AT ALL. I need to impress upon you all that I missed their company, but was not worried for their welfare.
I also did no meal prep. I don’t even think I went shopping right before I left.
This is not about apples and oranges. This isn’t even about my husband. This is about the fact that this is apparently WEIRD.
Another mum at my daughter’s school is leaving for ten days. She’s taking her youngest (who is a very small baby) and leaving her husband with their two girls. She has been cooking for days preparing freezer meals. She’s panicking and deputizing her six year old to remind him how to make school lunches. AND I AM APPALLED.
A) He is definitely not helpless. (He’s a doctor or something.) What gendered bullshit. B) THAT LITTLE GIRL IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER SISTER’S WELLBEING. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. C) Why is she married to this person and creating children with him if he’s this big of an idiot?
While she was laughingly recounting this, the other mums were nodding and smiling sympathetically, like oh yes, I too have my caveman at home!! Such managing required! I was the only one who was like “Dude, he’ll be fine. Literally. He will be fine.” I said it a lot. She was not convinced. She kept bringing up her older daughter. She’ll be like a little mum!
NO.
NO NO NO NO.
NO.
Straight women, don’t do this shit. It’s gross. Don’t infantilize your husbands and then expect your daughters to pick up the slack. So fucking gross. So. So. GROSS.
The fact that so many adults think a six year old girl is more capable of learning and performing basic domestic tasks than a grown-ass man says it all, really.
This stuff is so toxic and awful. I told a car full of women one time that I refused to be in another relationship until I met a man who was capable of making his own doctors’ appointments and washing the dishes. They told me I was going to die alone.
Fuck this shit. Don’t enable men’s incompetence and label it cute.
As if expecting your husband/partner to be a capable, functional adult human is asking too much…
My husband is a stay at home dad no probs men aren’t infants. Society is weird and fucked up.
According to Michael Jung, it all starts with the education of his
horses. “First dressage, then jumping”. And according to his dad, that
is also the order in which Michael himself was educated. “He needed to
have the basics down first. Only after he could ride most dressage
exercises satisfactory, he was allowed to start jumping regular
obstacles. After he was accomplished at jumping that, he began jumping
cross country obstacles. This is the same way we train our horses. Until
a horse is absolutely confident jumping a regular jumping course, we
will not start with the solid obstacles. Since it is not without risk
and we have a responsibility towards the horse”. (x)
German eventer Michael Jung is considered by many of his peers as one of the greatest overall rider ever.
I remember Kevin Staut saying that if he ever was to really get into show jumping, he would only need a few months before beating 5* Grand Prix riders.
‘The Writer,’ 1 of 3 surviving automata
from the 18th century, is a programmable
boy that uses quill and ink to write any 40
letters of custom text. This 240-year-old
automaton uses all 6,000 of its parts to
create just enough pressure for fluid,
elegant writing, and is thought by
some to be the first computer. Source
This is truly a masterpiece of engineering from an early age. So amazing!
okay LOOK. I understand that on a purely mechanical and engineering level that this is an incredible piece but if scifi and fantasy media has taught me anything it’s that this motherfucker is haunted af and probably writes out gruesome deaths that mysteriously end up coming to pass thanks but NO THANKS BYE
I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?
But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize, snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?
Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)
Or any sentence containing the word “finally”.
If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.
Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.
I demand to know why I can’t hit add a million more likes to this post.
This is like 95% of the reason I have so much resistance to trying new things or doing anything that I’ve previously displayed reluctance or disinterest in.
Things like ‘shipping positivity’ or ‘being anti-antis’ or ‘ship and let ship’ doesn’t mean that you have to like every ship or character in your favourite canons.
It doesn’t mean you have to like every trope, or kink, or fetish that someone wants to write about.
You can still have squicks or things that gross you out or ships you hate or characters you dislike.
It just means accepting that other people are into things that you aren’t into, but they can still write/draw/create gifs of the things they’re into, and not being an asshole when you stumble across fanfic/fanart/gifsets of your NOTP.
The series, created, written, and starring Shoshannah Stern and Josh Feldman, both of whom are deaf, explores the relationship between best friends Kate (Stern), who is newly engaged, and Michael (Feldman), who is attempting to move on from his ex-fiance.
Me: Tommorow I have to get up early. I should probably go to sleep and get rest.
Also me: *dying over cockles convention and staring at same gif set for hours*
(My personal favourite moment from last cockles convention)
No, this isn’t my first time seeing this. But I’m drowning in Cockles right now and freaking hyperventilating over these. From Jensen’s challenging approach in the first GIF to being a submissive goof in the last…
I love Jensen’s dominance display with the bottle and how it just VANISHES the minute Misha steps toward him.
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