they get fogged up when we drink hot beverages.
they get smudged for no reason.
we will push them up using anything in our area (i.e shoulder, whatever is in my hand, scrunching my nose up so they get pushed up, etc.).
they get knocked off our faces all. the. fucking. time.
when we change clothes we either take them off or they fall off when we pull our shirts off.
we have to clean them after being in the rain.
we own multiple pairs of them, not just one lone pair for our whole lives.
most people don’t wear them in the pool, but some have extra old pairs for the pool (like me).
some people take them off during sex, that’s fine! but some people keep them on.
they don’t get squished into your face when you kiss (most of the time. at least from what i’ve experienced and i’ve got some mf big glasses).
if we look down and look back up while you talk/to peek up at something, we will just peek blindly over the top of them.
we clean them on whatever item of clothing is closest.
some of us have prescription sunglasses and some of us wear contacts when we need to wear sunglasses.
please keep some of these in mind when you write characters with glasses cause y’all who have 20/20 vision keep telling me all characters sleep in their glasses and own the same singular pair from age 6-25 and they never clean them.
Some small additions to this:
– When we get hugged by people who are taller than us, especially if caught off guard, one lens inevitably gets smooshed into our faces. Or their face, leaving gross oily residue (maybe this is just with grandparents idk) – Some people like me wear glasses in the shower/pool until they’re more of hindrance than help – Depending on how bad your sight is, you don’t just ‘lose’ your glasses and move on – Seriously. I’ve had them fall of my nightstand and it’s TERRIFYING to not know where they are and try to guess at shapes – Not everyone has spare glasses! It’s only in the last year that I’ve changed frames that have a similar prescription. In these cases, you might be able to squeak by for a few days without your current prescription (using an old pair), but it depends on how far apart they are – Sometimes we fall asleep in your glasses. Sometimes when we do that too much the arms get bent and we have to get them fixed, it’s not a habit that should be taken lightly – Occasionally (I don’t own prescription sunglasses or contacts) you have to break down and pull regular sunglasses on over top of your glasses, it looks dumb as hell – Some of us like getting other people to try our glasses on so we can explain how frickin’ blind we are. But, a more general trend is being pissed when people take them without asking to make that assumption on their own – Getting out of air conditioned cars when it’s hot and humid is basically The Worst kind of fog
even if you have two pairs of glasses with the same prescriptions, the frames might be a different shape so you’ll still have to adjust to the curves of the lenses/seeing over the frames/etc
even with glasses, your vision doesnt become perfect.
DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES IVE SEEN A SHOW OR WHATEVER AND ONE CHARACTER LOSES THEIR GLASSES AND SOMEONE ELSE IS LIKE “HERE BORROW MINE” (okay so like 3 max but still) I HATE THAT. IT DOESNT SOLVE THE PROBLEM AND ALSO YOU CANT JUST ~TRADE~ GLASSES THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS
characters with long hair may get their hair stuck in the hinges or caught under the frams (stuck between the glsses and the face) its not fun and its v uncomfortable
Glasses can give you little marks on the top bridge if your nose, where they rest for hours all day.
When you forget where you put your glasses, every step a PRAY TO HOLY FUCK moment that you don’t step on them accidentally.
It may look sexy on some people but I can tell you after 28 years of experience that no one really likes walking around with a contraption on their face. it’s not fun or exciting in the long run.
Once I put my glasses down on my bed and had to get my roommate to come find them for me.
If you have more than one pair of glasses, the second pair is probably sunglasses and you might spend a lot of time wandering around trying to remember where you put them.
And if you have a cat, you hope that they don’t knock them off the nightstand while you’re sleeping because they just want to play and without fail they’ll fall into that spot that is a pita to reach.
Opening the oven does a number on glasses too.
The worst part is when you go to clean a fingerprint off your glasses but only smear the fingerprint around and have to spend the next 5 minutes cleaning them, putting them on, looking at a light source, taking them off, cleaning them again, nope, okay lick the lenses this time, clean them on a different part of your shirt, okay there we go.
Also if you have a lot of tech things: Using microfiber cloths, screen cleaning kits, etc. for your glasses almost more than for your phone/tablet screen.
And the fun game of “is this an ocular migraine starting or is there just something on my glasses”.
Can I talk about the tape on the bridge thing only works with plastic frame glasses and NOT wire frame
Also getting them broke is sucky but you can get them fixed for free at some eyeglass centers IF you originally got the glasses from them sometimes
I see your oven and I raise you: DISHWASHER STEAM.
About the kissing thing: if you’re kissing someone who also wears glasses they can clank together or get smushed together
when the little nose pad things fall off and you have a wire piece just … poking into your flesh
As someone who has only recently (last year)gotten glasses, this is a validation of my pain, lol.
Glasses can get super fogged up when you get out of an air conditioned car and out into the street when it’s just ridiculously hot humid on some days. And I have to agree with the post on top. It’s a terrible kind of fog that’s exclusively for you. Also, glasses can sometimes get a random screw loose that a lens would fall as you are walking. Happened to me one time. Transition lenses are funky and awesomely convenient so you don’t have to bring shades when it’s a bit brighter than usual when you go out. Even with spare glasses, you could loose both of them. I wish I was kidding. When interacting with babies, they tend to want to touch the lenses. I dunno but when I was babysitting I think they were fascinated.
As someone who’s worn both glasses and contact lenses, I can truly say that this Tumblr posts truly understands my pain.
Okay, but srsly why is nobody mentioning that when you have glasses (especially the high prescriptions) and you’re near-sighted everything is so. fucking. small. You may not notice that if you only ever wear glasses and see absolutely nothing without them like me, but once you get contacts oh boy, it’s like Attack On Titan 2.0. Everything is fucking huge and you get dizzy just looking at something across the room.
Also: Some dogs love to lick them. And sunscreen is the worst of it all.
I own one pair of glasses, cause after mocking my whole family for years, karma came and kicked me in the knee while saying “fuk u u wear glasses now”
It amazes me that some people don’t know how it feels to wear glasses (I wear mine all day long and have since I was four year-old)
Polygamy: Polygamy is the practice of marrying several people. It doesn’t sound so bad when you put it like that, but when you talk about it as it is performed the image changes drastically. Polygamy, as it is practiced, often involves one man marrying several women and asserting his dominance over them. He controls them, places rules on them, and this puts them in an environment of cruelty and unfairness.
This is not Polyamory.
Harem: A harem is a collection of people often collected for the purpose of sex. Depending on which cultures you look at you might get different versions of the same story, but most of the time the people in the harem are not considered equals.
This is not Polyamory.
Cheating: cheating is that act of one partner going behind the back of another to go have relations with someone else. One partner thinks everything is fine the other is clearly unsatisfied in some way. And of course this person didn’t think to communicate their dissatisfaction like an adult would. Instead they chose to lie and do something that could ultimately ruin one if not both of their current relationships.
This is not Polyamory.
Now that i’ve told you what Polyamory is not, let me tell you what it is.
I’ll make it simple: In polyamory…
…partners are loved and treated as equals.
…rules can be used but are not recommended.
…everyone knows what is going on and consents to this type of relationship, if someone does not consent, then the discussion is not over. Go back to the drawing board and figure out how to make it work. And if it can’t work? You need to decide then if everything is going to stay as is or if everything is going to change.
…partners should be treated in a way that suits their dynamic with each other. trying to be fair and giving everyone the same slice of “pie” usually leaves something to be desired.
…partners should not be treated as if they are above or below other partners because then everyone is not on equal standing and you make them feel like they have more say or no say in how things are done.
…everything is discussed openly, emotions are laid bare. No one should be judged for how they feel and no one should foist their feelings onto other people.
…communication, communication, communication. Not discussing everything and not having regular check ins with everyone can and will ruin your relationships faster than you can say quidditch.
Now there are a lot of different ways to have a polyamorous relationship. By nature a polyamorous relationship is amorphous and will change shape and feel as those within require it to change. Polyamorous relationships don’t come out of a mold factory built over several thousand generations. Polyamorous relationships are built by the hands of those who want them and they are built in a way that suits the builders, not because someone said a particular shape was right and another was wrong.
People who have multiple sex partners who are all aware of each other and consent to sharing each other are polyamorous.
People who have multiple romantic partners who
are all aware of each other and consent to sharing each other are polyamorous.
People who have both multiple sex and romantic partners and who yes all consent are, you guessed it, polyamorous.
Even people who are not romantic or sexual can be considered polyamorous. Because it’s not about romance or sex; it’s about love and trust.
a guy in a salvos truck yelled at me and my gf while we were kissing today so I was thinking of this
Do you know, when I was in high-school I went to the mall near my house with my girlfriend to do some Christmas shopping.
We were there, sixteen year old me and seventeen year old her, holding hands and window-shopping, minding our own business.
This Salvation Army shitheel gets aggro about it in the middle of the mall and I’m there totally flabbergasted cause like, it’s christmas
Only, 16!Tabi had even less composure than 26!Tabi, so I lost my fucking mind on her.
Thing is: when I’m really angry, I don’t rage, I go all cold and apparently that freaks people out, because I could see my gf backing up and the lady getting tense and then I realized that anger doesn’t solve problems.
So instead, I started wailing.
Picture this: 5’4, tiny, blonde haired high school girl with her little violin on her back and pearls in her ears just as PTA-approved as could be, full on sobbing in the hallway.
Just, sobbing like my dog’s been shot.
Now my gf’s like, “oh fuck” and the lady’s like “oh fuuuuck!” and I’m here, head thrown back, tears down my cheeks and in that shrill, distressed, /loud/ voice, “WHY WOULD YOU B-b-be so MEAN?! It’s CHRISTMAS!”
And the lady’s like “please stop Oh fuck” because now we have a crowd, and this Molly Weasley of a woman putters over, “what’s the matter, dear?”
And mall security’s coming and this bell ringer is looking very uncomfortable so I just look at this matronly ellen-watching suburban housewife lady, eyes wide and wet and my lip wobbling.
“I was, she s-said, s-s-she said I was going to HELL!”
And I burst right back into tears.
Maaaaaaaan, they didn’t even stick around to ask why she’d said it. Soon as I said it, Mall po-po bounced her like a fucking pogo stick.
We get outside and my girlfriend’s like “that is the most Slytherin thing I have ever seen anyone do.”
It was four years before I saw the Army back in that mall.
that is beautiful
Holiday reminder: don’t let anyone get away with trying to make you feel bad about yourself.
So yeah, they’re not just ‘homophobic’, they’re bigoted fucking murderers.
(Wikipedia article on her death conveniently (for SA) omits Salvation Army connection, linking only to expired articles from local newspapers)
SA claims that they didn’t turn her away, and accept all homeless people, except, it’s not like Jennifer Gale was only trans woman refused shelter by Salvation Army, making this denial appear to be worth less than bullshit:
Those thousands of plates, bowls, wrappers and cups in your room that have been there for weeks and are going mouldy?
Invest in a plastic laundry basket like this one:
you can by it here on amazon. they usually are really cheap and easy to get pretty much anywhere, and you can put all the plates/cups/wrappers in one easy-to-carry place rather than all over your bedroom. If you put it at the end of your bed, or beside it, next time you go downstairs you can just bring every plate with you at once.
you can fill it up with washing up fluid so you don’t have to waste spoons squeezing it out every time you wanna clean a dish. They take pretty much a whole bottle of liquid at once so all you need is water! they’re super handy and you don’t have to get your hands in gross dirty water.
All those clothes all over your floor?
if you get another one of those laundry baskets i linked up there, it’s much easier to throw it in there rather than in a laundry basket, if you’re like me and just sorta throw stuff on the floor.
if you prefer a laundry basket though, you can get a double hamper like this
which makes it easier to sort your laundry in. the next step is bringing it downstairs which is a bit of a struggle. my trick for it is rolling a d20 dice using this roller and if i get a number higher than 10, i get up and do it. if i don’t, i stay sitting/laying down for another hour or so.
Having trouble getting up and making food?
Two words: CANNED FOOD.
if you get a little box or a basket (i have one in the shape of a kitty under my vanity) and keep it in your bedroom along with a can-opener and a utensil, stuff like this can last FOREVER.
You can get all sorts of food in cans, and most of it is microwavable so it’s an easy cook! Also, fruit slices generally come in cans of their own juice, so they double as a snack AND a drink!
You can also get bottles like these:
these ones are sistema shaker bottles and they take about 700ml per bottle. i’ve found it’s way easier to just fill up a bottle with juice/water instead of making cups all the time.
Bath/shower just not happening?
For this, I’d recommend baby wipes – they can really make the difference in cleanliness of your body! These you can get, like, anywhere, but here’s a link for some on amazon too.
I also recommend some batiste dry shampoo for your hair! all you do is spray it then brush it in
Feeling lonely or isolated?
There’s a whole bunch of cool discord servers you can join! they’re usually open to anyone with the links (it has voice calls but not video as of yet) as well as Skype where you can video call friends! discord server group chats are fun because you can talk to people whenever you want to, but you don’t have to go in there if you’re not feeling like it.
These are just some of the things I do to help myself cope with my depression. It isn’t ever easy to do, but these, hopefully, are some things that can help with some of the struggles that come with it. These aren’t things that will “fix” the depression, or instantly make it better, they’re just some suggestions that can help – Seeing a doctor or a therapist you trust on top of these things can make all the difference.
It frequently does seem to involve his heart, doesn’t it? I mean, going all the way back to 1.12 and his first literal brush with death, it was his heart.
(and the reaper stole the “heart” of a nice openly gay man to give Dean life again… he’s been living with that since 1.12…)
Metatron stabbed him through the heart in 9.23, and he rose again as a demon. Now he’s stabbed himself through the heart in 13.05 and Billie put him back.
I also find it interesting that Cas is the one described as having too much heart, when really, I think that’s Dean. Cas cares about humanity, and he loves Dean and Sam, but he’s also made very calculating decisions that could have harmed all three.
Dean, meanwhile, makes bad decisions that would only hurt him, at least initially, and he makes them when he’s in the depths of despair. And it’s Dean’s heart that suffers, physically or emotionally, every time.
I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist.
It’d bring me great joy.
I’m 6’2 and weigh 180lbs
ready when you are
Or if you’d like to have some more options….
I’m 6’4” 228 pounds and have 9 years of combined martial arts training and 3 years of being a Line Backer in football. Just in case you are looking for variety.
what about a lady and a feminist. warning, combatives certified soldier.
im tiny, i’m like 5′4 and 130 lbs but u can fight me too
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