So many people think verbal abuse isn’t real. IT’S SO FRICKEN REAL I’VE EXPERIENCED VERBAL ABUSE ALL MY LIFE. STOP! WITH! THAT! CRAP!
-You sometimes have good moments with your abuser
People think it has to be ALWAYS 100% bad with your abuser, sometimes they can be nicer than other times. It doesn’t make the abuse invalid or not real for you enjoying a good moment.
-You still love them
Sometimes it’s not as easy to hate an abuser. Especially if they are a significant other or part of your family, or even close friend. It’s okay, it makes sense why you would love them. It doesn’t mean you are making up the abuse or exaggerating it.
You forgive them
People forgive others to come to terms with what happened to them and move on. It doesn’t mean it’s “less bad” than other people who hate their abuser. It’s not always easy and sometimes it can be confusing and hard. It’s okay if you forgive them it doesn’t mean the pain stops there or the pain ends. Keep going.
You can’t remember parts of it
Your brain most likely blocked out a lot of it. It doesn’t mean it was made up or a dream. It feels so invalidating for people to not believe you when you mix stories up or repeat them a different way. When it comes to abuse you’re bound to not remember everything.
You are blamed for it
I have been blamed for my abuse as I have done something wrong. YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG. NO MATTER WHAT “MISTAKES” YOU THINK YOU MADE. YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG. IT IS SOLEY THE ABUSERS FAULT.
People don’t believe you
Especially if the abuser hides it well that they’re an awful person. As much as it hurts to not have them know or understand. Just know that you know what happened to you and that’s all that matters. Your mental health is the most important.
You’ve been abused
Every single person who has experienced abuse whatever the form may be you ARE VALID. No matter how many people don’t believe you or blame you for it. It was NEVER and NEVER WILL BE your fault. Keep fighting loves. You are so strong I am in awe.
Dean watching various members of his family burn vs watching the man he loves burn. Fucking fight me if you think there isn’t a difference.
I think what strikes me the most how in the first three gifs, his face seems rather tense. His jaw is clenched and he stares at the fire with grim determination. He feels the loss, but he still focusses on the fact that he has to keep going on.
The last one though – his shoulders are slouched, his jaw is slacked, and his eyes don’t really focus on anything. This isn’t the face of a man who wants to keep going, really.
Puppy: ”See, I told you we’d both fit on here comfortably.” 🔊
THE TAIL WAGGING
“Don’t fuckin touch me!”
😂 the cat look so annoyed but it’s not moving 😩
I totally wanna see the video of when that dog is full grown and the cat tree can barely support the weight and the cat is sitting on top of the dog because there’s no room left on the cat tree!
If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.
They’re asking you if they can play too.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.
They’re asking if they can watch it with you.
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When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?”
What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.”
What they’re actually asking: “Can I join you?”
Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection.
What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]
What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.
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This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.
IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.
I didn’t realize, even thought it took me almost three decades to learn this, that this was such a paradigm changing realization until we had our conversation today.
But it really really is. One of the most bewildering realizations I’ve had is most people don’t talk to learn things unless its related to work or directly towards their own hobbies, all the words and questions are bonding questions if done socially. They are “lets make friends” questions.
So if I answer their question without an opportunity for the person asking the question to give a response or to join in somehow, the asker feels alienated and starts shutting down.
Example: what are you reading?
True answer but not what they’re looking for: Title of book
Best answer for social scenarios where I want to retain/create friendship: This book is about x and y but it has z that i know u have an interest in too.
Example: what are you doing?
True answer but not: drawing
Best answer for friends: I’m drawing but would u like company while I’m working?
And sometimes frankly I’m not in a headspace where I can process people so the answer is something like, “I would like to do something in a day or later, do you want to plan something?”
Tldr: communication is wierd
HOLY
SHIT
that explains so fucking much thank you
(why the fuck do neurotypicals never just day what they mean ie hey this show looks cool mind if I join you)
Further annoying?
They don’t realize that’s what they’re asking and they just feel rejected and go away. So you can’t even ask them what you did wrong because they can’t even put a finger on why they feel the way they do they just know you made them feel bad for some undefined reason.
Friendly reminder that Alexander Calvert is the same age Jensen Ackles was in season 1
WOAH OMG
consider my mind thoroughly fucked
And Jensen Ackles is now the same age Jeffery Dean Morgan was in season 1. So if Supernatural started filming today, Alex would play Dean and Jensen would play John
After years of global searching and processing human response, the internet has finally completed its original task of finding the most perfect cat video possible.
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