“The low-maintenance woman, the ideal woman, has no appetite. This is not to say that she refuses food, sex, romance, emotional effort; to refuse is petulant, which is ironically more demanding. The woman without appetite politely finishes what’s on her plate, and declines seconds. She is satisfied and satisfiable.
A man’s appetite can be hearty, but a woman with an appetite is always voracious: her hunger always overreaches, because it is not supposed to exist. If she wants food, she is a glutton. If she wants sex, she is a slut. If she wants emotional care-taking, she is a high-maintenance bitch or, worse, an “attention whore”: an amalgam of sex-hunger and care-hunger, greedy not only to be fucked and paid but, most unforgivably of all, to be noticed.”
Christ, this article made me legit well up in tears at work…
“Women talk ourselves into needing less, because we’re not supposed to want more—or because we know we won’t get more, and we don’t want to feel unsatisfied. We reduce our needs for food, for space, for respect, for help, for love and affection, for being noticed, according to what we think we’re allowed to have. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we can live without it, even that we don’t want it. But it’s not that we don’t want more. It’s that we don’t want to be seen asking for it. And when it comes to romance, women always, always need to ask.”
What are all your thoughts on teens RPing genuinely problematic ships with adults, or even other teens? Assuming there’s no NSFW scenes, I’m still not sure how I feel about, say, an adult and teen roleplaying homecoming-era Starker.
to an outsider, that looks pretty bad. but I don’t know what the roleplay culture is like or even if that kind of thing is already frowned upon.
Ah, that ship is a hard no from me anyway, but were I to explore it or something similar, it sure as hell wouldn’t be with a teen. I spent a lot of my formative RP time limiting myself to PG-13, and playing against 13 year-olds in the forums I was a member of at the time.
Now, I’m 32 instead of 18, and I feel much more comfortable sharing RP-space with adults instead of minors. There’s a reason my latest forum joining was to an 18+ forum, and it wasn’t for smut purposes; there’s been no smut so far.
The culture is changing to protect the adults using online spaces from crusading parents. Lying about your age online to get into adults-only spaces used to be an unspoken, really common thing, though it’d get you banned if you were found.
Now, you’re vetted hardcore by the mods, and there’s a very good chance they’d find the one social media post where the charade is not kept up, because of the very real legal problems that could crop up.
Also, my fandom of choice is “problematic” all on its own, and the older fans view it differently from the younger fans.
I also don’t do DW or tumblr RP, and forum RP is a little more insular, so other people may have different opinions.
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