So I was at the gynecologist today and while I waited for the doctor to come in, they gave me this sheet to look at, as part of protocol. Every doctor should do this.
{Image: A graph depicting the power and control cycle. It says: “Understand Abusive Relationships.”
“Some people use physical or sexual violence to try to control their partner. Here are some other controlling behaviors and tactics that are common in abusive relationships.”
One – Using Coercion and Threats: Makes and/or carries out threats to hurt me; Threatens to commit suicide; Threatens to report/embarrass/out me to an agency or others; Threatens to leave me; Pressures me to commit illegal actions.
Two – Using Intimidation: Makes me feel afraid or unsafe with actions, gestures, looks; Throws things; Breaks things; Damages my property; Abuses my pets; Displays weapons.
Three – Using Emotional Abuse: Puts me down; Makes me feel bad about myself; Calls me names; Makes me think I am crazy, misinterpreting or overreacting; Plays mind games; Humiliates me; Makes me feel guilty or ashamed.
Four – Using Isolation: Controls what I do, who I see, what I read, where I go and who I talk to; Limits my volunteer, religious, or outside activities; Monitors my behaviors, and communication; Uses jealously to justify actions.
Five – Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming: Makes light of the abuse; Doesn’t take my concerns seriously; Denies abuse ever happened; Shifts blame for the abuse to me by saying I caused it.
Six – Using Children: Makes me feel guilty about the children; Uses the children to relay messages; Uses visitation to harass me; Threatens to take the children away.
Seven – Using Stereotypes: Treats me like a servant; Acts like the “head of the household;” Makes all the big decisions; Defines each person’s role in the relationship; Uses gender, race, class or other stereotypes against me.
Eight – Using Economic Abuse: Prevents me from getting or keeping a job; Makes me ask for money; Gives me an allowance; Takes my money; Refuses to let me know about or have access to shared income.
It’s great how they are nice and obvious about adhering to standard romance tropes 😀
Sam is like I AM ALSO RIGHT HERE, but anyway, we don’t have time for you two to be all pissy or romantic or whatever like last time, we have to get on with the case at hand, Lucifer is probably right behind us!
Mary isn’t even surprised. She thinks they’re a thing anyway, I mean every interaction she’s had with them they’ve behaved like husbands so what else would she think…
Nerdy Fact #1434: Wonder Woman was originally based on two women: the wife of creator William Marston and one of his former students that both he and his wife had sexual encounters with.
Elizabeth Holloway Marston and Olive Byrne were among a number of women who contributed to the original Wonder Woman, and they’re fascinating people in their own right.
Elizabeth Holloway Marston was a brilliant woman. She earned three university degrees in psychology and law at a time when few women received any tertiary education. She was a successful career woman who assisted her husband with his work and was frequently the breadwinner of the family.
The main reason she was able to continue working after having children? Olive Byrne, who was not simply a casual “sexual encounter”, but the Marstons’ lover and life partner. To enable Elizabeth to work, Olive stayed at home and raised both her and Elizabeth’s children. She also wrote for Family Circle and contributed to Marston’s research.
Elizabeth is credited with pushing her husband to create a female superhero, and after his death she worked hard to preserve his vision for the character, urging DC to employ her as the comic’s editor (she was ignored).
Wonder Woman’s bracelet’s are Olive’s bracelets: Olive was known for wearing a pair of wide silver bracelets, and Marston had these in mind when he envisioned Diana’s bullet-deflecting accessories.
Marston died in 1947, but Elizabeth and Olive continued to live together until the end of their lives.
Wait. Clarification please. Are you telling me that the creator of Wonder WOMAN WAS IN A POLY-AMOROUS RELATIONSHIP?
Yep! They were in a poly relationship and had four children together, two by Elizabeth and two by Olive.
(And for those who’ve asked about sources, the Marstons’ story is covered in detail in The Secret History of Wonder Woman by Jill Lepore and Wonder Woman: The Complete History by Les Daniels)
Wonder Woman was inspired and shaped by not only a man who was incredibly progressive and awesome by todays standards let alone the standards of the day he lived in but also by a fierce, intelligent and awesome bisexual woman
This is one of the many reasons why the ways DC has ruined Wonder Woman in their pursuit of making the book as backwards and heteronormative as possible pisses me off…
Not a fierce and intelligent and awesome bisexual woman.
Two fierce and intelligent and awesome bisexual women.
You are correct 😀
Imagine growing up in that house
“Mom wants to see you.”
“Psychology mom or bracelet mom?”
“Bracelet mom.”
According to Lepore, the kids called Elizabeth “Keetie” and Olive “Dotsie”!
That is adorable.
I have reblogged this before and will continue to do it until the day I die. The origin story of WW comics is as fucking great as the character herself.
Fun fact: Olive’s bracelets were a gift from William and Elizabeth, and were basically an alternative to a wedding ring, since she couldn’t legally marry them. Diana’s bracelets, 70+ years later, are a symbol of that relationship.
how to check if a d20 is cursed, thought you might like it 😀
Oh, this is interesting. I might have to try this out. But I never would have thought about this.
it actually works. i ended up doing it with all my old dice and about 2/3s of them landed on low numbers
public service announcement to the rpg world (again)
This is why I’ve switched to clear dice.
If you guys want gaming dice that are as close to perfectly random as possible, you should check out GameScience. The company owner, Louis Zocchi, has a genuine passion–and I mean passion, I spent a full hour one time talking to him about math, engineering and gaming history–for randomness, crafting the the most perfect gaming tools possible, and also for coming up with ways to create dice in weird configurations (check out his 5-siders, 14-siders, and 24-siders). Even his opaque dice get tested (unless you buy factory seconds, which are the discards that didn’t pass), and he uses a high grade plastic for all his dice so the translucent ones look like faceted gems.
He’s also one of the most interesting conversations you’ll have in the vendor’s room if you ever catch him at a convention.
…maybe the real traitor was the friends we made along the way
Iron Bull: Hey Varric, I was reading your stuff. Where do your bad guys come from?
Varric: Well, some of them come from
Tevinter, and some are Ben-Hassrath spies. But I like the stories where
the villain was the man beside you the whole time.
Varric: The best villains don’t see
themselves as evil. They’re fighting for a good cause, willing to get
their hands dirty.
Iron Bull: Alright, that’s really deep and all, but I meant where do the bad guys come from literally.
Iron Bull: The way you write it, it’s like they just fall from the sky and land on top of the hero.
Varric: I like to leave some things to reader’s imagination.
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