Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.
what book is this?
This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.
I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS.
The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD. He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.
Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?
That is how we stop abuse.
We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.
Arm yrself with knowledge!
Changed my life, would reccomend.
Reblogging for the PDF link.
—BB
Always reblogging because this isn’t just a partner abuse thing, this is a common abuse tactic PERIOD: Parents, siblings, bosses, general assholes, etc…
Pretty sure I’ve reblogged this like eight times, don’t care.
“Always reblogging because this isn’t just a partner abuse thing, this is a common abuse tactic PERIOD: Parents, siblings, bosses, general assholes, etc…”
Dean Winchester is not a germ freak. He said so. He said so himself. There is no way that Dean Winchester could have a phobia of germs. The proof is right there.
Dean Winchester actually thinks of himself as not a germ freak.
Because, you know, everything someone ever says about themselves is true. People are never in denial.
3,700+ notes and nobody mentions what we’re actually talking about but everybody knows. i love this fandom.
I think there were like 2 people that didn’t get it.
This fandom knows shade.
I fucking love this fandom
And I love your username!
But, he said he’s not a germ freak? You think providing lots of evidence of his behaviour and actions over several years proves anything? Dean says he isn’t and I think Dean knows Dean better than we do :):)
Frankly, calling Dean a germphobe when he’s so clearly stated he’s not is offensive to germphobes!
How offensive to believe mountains of evidence over the ONE TIME Dean made a statement to the contrary. Only the words that come out of his mouth carry any weight. 11 seasons of Dean being grossed out by germy things is nothing, since he said it ONE TIME WITH ACTUAL WORDS that he’s clearly NOT a germ freak…
I live in a fairly liberal part of the country and the background of the second gif didn’t even register to me as important/weird…
I live in a *really* liberal part of the country (outside Boston), but when we drive to Florida, the whole south looks like this to me. And ive driven through parts of the midwest that look like this too. It’s pretty weird.
…Heck, now that I think about it, there are even little pieces of MA that are like this. There’s a huge “repent, sinners” type sign in Chicopee that I drive past a lot, and Chicopee/Holyoke is like…. not an area that should be throwing godliness stones.
Formula for the second part of the trilogy has one member of the trio off on a mission of discovery while the remaining two parts stay behind in their own storyline together, go on an adventure, and fall in love.
This is Dean experiencing the effects of one of the Four Horsemen, Famine. This moment in context for you:
DEAN (to Castiel) So, what, you just happen to know he likes the cosmos at this place?
CASTIEL This place is a nexus of human reproduction. It’s exactly the kind of-(Castiel watches Dean put ketchup on his cheeseburger) -of garden the Cupid will come to— to pollinate.
(Dean puts his cheeseburger back down)
SAM Wait a minute. You’re not hungry?
DEAN No. What? I’m not hungry.
CASTIEL Then you’re not gonna finish that? (takes Dean’s cheeseburger.)( looking toward a couple at a table across the room) He’s here.
SAM I thought famine meant starvation, like as in, you know, food.
CASTIEL Yes. Absolutely. But not just food. I mean, everyone seems to be starving for something—Sex, attention, drugs, love…
and then:
DEAN Are you serious?
CASTIEL These make me…very happy.
DEAN How many is that?
CASTIEL I lost count. It’s in the low hundreds. What I don’t understand is…where is your hunger, Dean?
DEAN Huh?
CASTIEL Well, slowly but surely, everyone in this town is falling prey to Famine, but so far, you seem unaffected.
DEAN Hey, when I want to drink, I drink. When I want sex, I go get it. Same goes for a sandwich or a fight.
CASTIEL So…you’re saying you’re just well-adjusted?
DEAN God, no. I’m just well-fed. Look there.
Ok. Dean IS affected by Famine. He is well fed, yes, but that does not leave him unaffected. Everyone, each person began craving what they did not allow themselves in their daily lives. Some people sex, others food, love, attention, whatever it is in their day to day life that they sacrifice for whatever reason… These people were craving it and seeking it fiercely.
Dean, however, seems to have his cravings dulled. He is, as he states, typically easy and quick to fulfill his own cravings. “When I want to drink, I drink. When I want sex, I go get it. Same goes for a sandwich or a fight.“
What Dean is experiencing as an effect of Famine is an absence of cravings. He is quite literally craving Abstinence. He is craving the loss of every craving he has ever fed.
“I’m well fed.” He says.
Dean, honey, you are fasting.
This is the first meta on Dean’s “hunger” that I’ve read that I can get behind.
To add a really sad note to this, I always thought Dean’s lack of appetite in this episode had to do with the fact that he just wanted everything to stop. That was what he was hungering for — an end to everything. A large part of Dean’s life is really about excess: too much blood; too much loss; too many fights; too much meaningless sex; too much pain; too much junk food; too much alcohol; too many small, meaningless, trivial gestures and words. What he’s always been lacking is the big, important stuff. And we’ve always known that Dean, deep down, just wanted all of it to stop. Just stop. He’s always been borderline, if not outright, suicidal. Famine most certainly did affect Dean; he opened up Dean’s deep-seated desire for everything to just stop, to stop gorging himself on the meaningless and trivial, for everything to finally just end.
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