Tag: actuallyasexual

sleepingreader:

bioware-fanatic:

asexualdinosaur:

I saw this magazine in a grocery store and I immediately started freaking out. I have no idea what the article is about, because I was leaving checkout and had to rush out of there, but just knowing that asexuals are spotlighted in one that’s carried in stores makes me very happy.

You can read the article here

There are asexuals who find themselves attracted to television characters as they get to know them over the course of a season, but feel no stirring in their loins for the actors who play those characters.

That explains so much

morbidmegz:

figmentsoffiction:

awesomequacker:

there are asexuals who are entirely disgusted by sex

there are asexuals who are fine talking about sex but aren’t willing to have it themselves

there are asexuals who like sex in theory but not in practice

there are asexuals who dont really care for it but are happy to do it for someone they love

there are asexuals who enjoy or even love the stimulation of sex but have no actual need or craving for it; its just like any other activity to do with someone and can easily be replaced with literally anything else

there are asexuals who do have a sexdrive but its only triggered by a strong emotional attachment rather than physical factors

there are a whole bunch of asexuals and if i hear “lol so ur like a plant” one more time i swear to fucking god

for all my Ace kids. I know y’all sick of the shit. 

Thank you for having our backs, lovely!

I’m just curious. What’s your stance on the whole “You’re not LGBT+ if you’re Cis heteromantic ace and/or aro” thing? I’m confused why this would even be a thing that people get angry about when asexuals and aromantics are a part of the community already.

asexualmew:

My stance is that cisgender heteromantic asexuals and that cisgender aromantic heterosexuals are both asexuals and aromantics respectively. Therefore, they should definitely be included in LGBT+ unless the A isn’t really for asexuals and aromantics.

It gets tiring, very tiring, and when I hear cis het aces and cis aro
hets don’t belong, I feel like I’m being directly told that I don’t belong because of my aceness. That my aceness is just a “quirky” thing to people within the community. That they don’t understand at all my strife for being ace, and they don’t care, and that it is merely only to humour us that they say we belong at all.

Honestly it’s the same acephobic and arophobic fight year after year after year. People just have a different way of painting that same turd is all so while as asexuals and aromantics start becoming more accepted as a general idea, the argument as to why we don’t belong becomes more sophisticated to mask actual hatred and ignorance towards us.

And sometimes, after being directly told from people within the community that asexuals and aromantics shouldn’t actually be the “A” at all, and that it should go back to Allies only, because, at least that would help closetted LGBT+ people by claiming they’re an Ally… sometimes I want to give up. Being told all the time that we don’t belong in all of these ways to make people sound less like the jerks they really are being- and I’m like- if we really are THAT OTHERED by everyone… by straight cis people, by the bigger LGBT+ community… maybe I should stop fighting for us to be included? And just truly separate myself from everyone? But .. like… I can’t actually do that… because I really do need to try to make a safe place for others who are aromantic and who are asexual… but…

Yeah anyway.

My stance on that narrative is that it’s acephobic and arophobic as hell.

livelypacific:

hazyaugust:

“sex is great” but have u ever 

  • cracked your back and it feels like sleeping on clouds
  • heard that one chord in a song that just resonates with your soul
  • bit into pizza and it doesnt burn your tongue its just warm and yummy
  • drunk some hot chocolate and the marshmallows have melted perfectly
  • tucked a lock of hair behind your ear and it stays
  • breathed in deeply and then exhaled and felt that everything was ok
  • had someone lean their head on your shoulder absentmindedly
  • made your friend giggle
  • realized you had all the ingredients and time for your favorite food
  • gotten into bed, felt like you’re floating, and fallen asleep immediately

wow reading this makes me realize how much more appreciative I should be

christinedaaechagny:

sometimes i’m like “am i really asexual? maybe i’m just repressing my feelings and sometimes i DO feel feelings ~of that nature~ so i can’t be ace” but then my friends get into discussions about sex they’ve had and i’m like “oh yeah… i am so ace……..i am very very ace……..i could not be more ace”

aromaniaac:

yeah I understand that Chris Pratt is a very attractive man but all these people are going on about how they only went to the movie for Chris Pratt like there are dinosaurs how can you only go to the movie for the actor when there are d i n o s a u r s jfc sure Chris Pratt has rippling muscles but a pack of velociraptors just ATE SOMEONE guys I think I might be asexual

queeravenger:

bipolarmenace:

maybe this is an unpopular opinion but it always made/makes me deeply uncomfortable how sexualized pride parades are like ppl tossing out sex toys and flying banners w dicks and shit on it like

its just so??? euch….it doesnt feel like a safe place for me at all and i know thats a sentiment shared by other sexual assault victims and ace ppl idk i just wish that pride was a little more… family friendly??/ i guess??? like keep your dick lollipops and butt plug flags to a minimum maybe

at Pride there were dozens of people walking around completely naked and a TON of people walking around in BDSM gear. like there were children and teens there. and rape survivors and ace people and people who just flat out don’t want to be exposed to that shit without their consent. like whyyy.

Pride stuff in the Bible Belt is much more dialed down, for obvious reasons, but you can still find some adult stuff if you’re looking for it. Ideally, I think that’s how the Pride events should be, if they’re being held in a public place. It helps make the community more accepting for everyone that might fall under that umbrella.

But what do I know? I don’t really exist, didn’t you hear?