BTW guys, Tumblr is randomly friending people for me again. So if I’ve followed you in the last few days and just unfollowed you it’s not personal, it’s that this website is the hottest of hot messes.
Also if I have been following you for ages and you just changed your name and I unfollowed you, hit me up, because I probably didn’t know you changed it and think I don’t know who you are.
It’s been doing that to me too, so heads up just in case I defriend someone in error.
is an absolutely valid reason to not want to date someone.
People had the nerve to call me shallow for this.
By the way, it’s also totally cool to turn someone down without explaining your reasons. You are not interested, no will suffice. Do not feel pressured to explain your decisions to someone else.
I personally do not enjoy driving, and I do at times find it very stressful and upsetting (particular in rush hour traffic). I want to stress that driving is not for everyone and that many people go through their entire lives without owning or operating a vehicle. There are lots of other ways to get around, including public transportation and cycling, and you shouldn’t feel obligated to drive if you don’t want to.
That said, here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable behind the wheel…
1. Positive reinforcement. Start rewarding yourself anytime you go for a drive, even if everything didn’t go as smoothly as you wanted it to. What’s important is that you’re getting the experience, not how far you drive or how fast you go. Buy a bulk package of your favorite treats, and reward yourself for a job well done.
2. GPS. Don’t be afraid to use GPS, even if you already know where you’re going. Nobody is going to know you’re using GPS and most navigation apps will let you listen to music at the same time. I love Google Maps, especially because it lets you know a mile ahead of time if you’re going to need to make a turn. These specific directions will help focus you and make you feel more confident behind the wheel!
3. Beautiful Atmosphere. If you’re going to be spending a good amount of time traveling by car, you might as well keep your car as esthetically pleasing as possible. Buy yourself an air freshener, play relaxing music, take your car to the car wash on a regular basis to keep it vacuumed and clean. Adding some personal touches to your car will help you feel more at home on the road.
4. Go your speed. It’s true that most drivers will drive over the speed limit, but that doesn’t meant that you have to! If you’re on a two lane road, move over to the right lane to allow people to pass you (this lane is commonly referred to as the “slow” lane). If someone is driving on your butt and giving you anxiety, pull over to the side of the road to allow them to pass. I do this all the time. If you need to drive under the speed limit for any reason, use your hazard lights.
5. Call someone. If you’re anxious about driving by yourself, put a friend or family member on speaker and talk to them while you drive. It’s important that you get used to driving by yourself (alone in the car), but this way someone will be able to talk to you and encourage you if you need it. Remember to be safe and either use an aux cord to connect your phone to your speaker system, or to leave the phone on speaker. Never drive around with your phone under your ear!
Take your time- people learn to drive at their own pace and there is no schedule you need to follow. Good luck babe!
Also, research public transit in your city. Find out how much it costs and whether you can get where you need to be using it.
As far dealing with family members pressuring you: I got a lot of mileage out of just shrugging and changing the subject- it also helped that my grandmother always ordered people to leave me alone about it, since she didn’t learn to drive until she was 21 and my grandfather taught her.
I’m 32 now, and I don’t even have a car. It can work to go without if you find you just can’t do it.
if anyone feels sad tonight please hold this thought for a minute:
the bees in my yard are now so familiar with my walking pace and usual route that they sometimes stop and wait for me to pass when our paths intersect.
SAN FRANCISCO – Facebook is suspending the Trump-affiliated data analytics firm Cambridge Analytica, after learning that it failed to delete data that it had taken inappropriately from users of the social network, Facebook said late Friday.
Facebook said it was suspending the accounts of Strategic Communication Laboratories, the parent company of Cambridge Analytica, as well as the accounts of a University of Cambridge psychologist Aleksandr Kogan, and Christopher Wylie of Eunoia Technologies.
Cambridge Analytica, a firm specializing in using online data to create voter personality profiles in order to target them with political messages, ran data operations for Trump’s presidential campaign. The company was funded by Trump supporter and hedge fund billionaire Robert Mercer, and former Trump senior adviser Stephen K. Bannon once sat on its board. The company, which began working for the Trump campaign in June 2016, promised that its so-called “psychographic” profiles could predict the personality and political leanings of every adult in the United States.
The analytics firm was asked in December to turn over internal documents to Special Counsel Robert Mueller, as part of the investigation into collusion between the Trump campaign and Russia during the 2016 election.
Facebook said that Kogan had requested and gained access to information from 270,000 Facebook members after they chose to download his app. The app, “thisisyourdigitallife,” offered a personality prediction, and billed itself on Facebook as “a research app used by psychologists.”
The Facebook members gave their consent for Kogan to access information such as the city they set on their profile, the content they had liked, as well as some limited information about friend groups and contacts. Kogan then broke Facebook’s policies and passed the information to Cambridge and to Wylie. Facebook learned about Kogan’s activities in 2015.
The company removed Kogan’s app at the time and demanded certifications from Kogan and Cambridge, and Wylie, that the information he had shared had been destroyed. Cambridge Analytica, Kogan and Wylie all certified to Facebook that they had done so. But Facebook said it received reports several days ago that the data was not deleted.
“We are moving aggressively to determine the accuracy of these claims,” the company said. “If true, this is another unacceptable violation of trust and the commitments they made. We are suspending SCL/Cambridge Analytica, Wylie and Kogan from Facebook, pending further information.”
Cambridge Analytica did not respond to immediate requests for comment.
The company’s methods of data collections have been criticized by other researchers. “Cambridge Analytica overstates their capabilities because they play in the shadows. They willingly cheat and ignore privacy rules and data ethics in order to win,”" said social media analyst Jonathan Albright, research director of the Tow Center for Digital Journalism at Columbia University.
Facebook is under significant pressure to control and be more transparent about how political operatives use its platform. Russian agents abused the company’s systems to target millions of American voters with disinformation during the 2016 election.
The Trump campaign also made heavy use of Facebook, and the social network faced criticism for sending Facebook staff to embed with campaign staffers. Facebook said this was standard practice for large political and corporate spenders.
Can you imagine being that bird? You see a big falling dot off in the distance, so you go to investigate. And it’s a human. Just, like, hanging out, in the middle of the sky. Plumbing toward earth at terminal velocity.
“Huh, that’s weird” you think to yourself.
You land on them. They seem nonplussed by their predicament.
But you’re a busy bird, you’ve got places to be. So you just fly off. Good luck, crazy human. Hope you make it.
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